If your butthole likes having things in it, go forth and enjoy. If it doesn’t, then you should probably listen to your body and leave your anus to its main purpose of excreting waste. If you’re trying to placate a boyfriend who won’t stop nagging you about fucking you in the ass, then he himself is an asshole, and I’d suggest he go fuck himself.
Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! I wanted to ask, what is your secret to making love stay? I gather you've been together for quite a while. Did you and your man have a really passionate, fast courtship, or did you slowly ease into your relationship? However you did it, It's refreshing to see that you two both look very much in love!
Corwin and I started dating quickly but deep love developed slowly and steadily over time.
I’ve thought a lot about long term relationships and love and why they work/don’t work, and why they even start at all. It doesn’t sound as good as “soul mates” or “love at first sight,” but I genuinely believe love is a choice you make- you decide to take a chance with someone and see where it goes. If you’re fortunate, and you work hard at it, the person you decide on becomes more and more amazing the more you learn about them, and the more you both grow. Hopefully you can grow together, and not apart.
All that bullshit about crazy love, about not being able to live without someone etc is just chemicals in your brain, like a drug. So fuck that! Look for someone you can create with. Look for someone who balances you and helps you and enriches your life and has the same life values. All of those things are intertwined and essential to LOVE but aren’t really talked about…Corwin and I have all of those plus physical chemistry. And every day I love him more :)
In discussions about anal sex for women, I’ve often heard folks say that the reason that gay men like it and women don’t is because men have prostates. But when we surveyed men for our book, we found that that simply isn’t true. Anal sensations are distinctly different from prostate sensations. And I’ve spoken with too many women who enjoy anal sex, either on its own or along with clitoral or vaginal stimulation, to buy the notion that women don’t like it. Of course, plenty of folks don’t enjoy it, just as plenty of people don’t enjoy certain kinds of food. But let’s let go of the clearly false claim that enjoying anal sex has anything to do with whether someone has a prostate or not. It’s just not true.
The girls who have pictures leaked, never win. They lose their jobs, they lose their reputations. They are humiliated, shamed. Of their bodies. Apologizing, for being sexual privately. For the things we do in the privacy of our bedrooms that we all aren’t and shouldn’t be doing but apparently are because hey, there are nine billion people on this planet and they got here somehow. Sabbith sits in a dark room and says, “I want to die.” Because she let her boyfriend take pictures, and he released them. Pictures not of her murdering puppies, or punching toddlers, or raping old people. Pictures of herself. Her body. The stuff that exists under her clothes. The body parts that are somehow more offensive than her toes.
I am going to go into full on berserker age.
NO, fuck you. At the time Betty Page was around, the shit she was doing was transgressive, and shocking and dirty, and if you’d been around there you would have hated her fucking guts because you’re a whorephobic, slut shaming,…
No one is a slut. “Slut” is a made-up word to keep women from having as much fun as men. A person who enjoys sex is just a person and a person who is a virgin is also just a person and everyone should lay off each other’s sex lives. Retire the word “slut” please.
I call him “Daddy,” and as you might suspect, there are aspects of power exchange in our relationship. I am his. My body is his, my mouth, vagina, and asshole are his – and my heart is his. Awareness and involvement are important to both of us. If the cute girl at my favorite lingerie shop flirts with me, and I flirt back, I tell him. If I want to kiss someone or have sex with another person, I tell him. When I go to work and have a really fun sex scene, I tell him about it in detail, while I’m sitting on his dick that night. If I want to masturbate, I ask permission and frequently describe what’s going through my head at the time or send him pictures. I always thank him for each orgasm. In a different but very much equal way, he treats me with the same respect. Through trial and error, this is what we’ve decided works for our relationship.
Stoya on her relationship with James Deen (via porn4ladies)
Its cute when people say that I get unwelcome perverted messages because I’m naked on the internet. Ask a girl on almost any social networking site, naked or in a long sleeve turtle neck dress to their ankles, how often she receives unsolicited and often vile sexual…
I have educated myself about feminism, patriarchy and gender politics just as you have, and I do not believe that all porn always has a positive effect on humanity, or is always a positive experience for performers. However, I think that just as it is possible for humans to have consensual sexual experiences that are not inherently exploitative, it is possible to record those experiences in a respectful way. Feminist porn is no less impossible than feminist sex, and I think as a political movement we’ve moved on from Dworkin’s idea that “violation is a synonym for intercourse.” Sexuality is personally and socially complex, and so is porn. As feminists, both are possible.